How to stop struggling and finally lose weight!

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If you are reading this you will be acutely aware how being overweight saps self confidence.  In fact it is even worse, because having low self esteem means you are more likely to overeat and become obese, so you're trapped in a vicious circle. The only winners are the owners of the multi-billion dollar weight loss industry, set to gross (ouch!) $361 billions in the USA alone by 2017, according to the Wall Street Journal. 

These $ billions  of profit are only possible because everybody fails, fails and fails again to lose weight and keep it off. They spend

• $ millions on useless supplements
• $ millions on gym memberships and exercise systems
• $ millions on diet plans
• $ millions on "diet foods"

Sound familiar?

The real answer lies in the mind, in Building a New Relationship with food and exercise.

Happy Mothering Sunday - in Britain and Ireland

This morning when I opened my browser the Google Doodle was of a cheerful woman with two kids, on cycles with colourful capes blowing in the wind behind them. Hovering my mouse over the image brought up the caption "Happy Mother's Day" and on impulse I typed "Google.com" into the search bar to see what the US version of Google looked like.  Of course I was immediately redirected to "Google.co.uk" so I do not know if there was a different or no Google doodle for the  USA.

The reason is that here in the British Isles we still celebrate the ancient Christian festival of Mothering Sunday on the fourth Sunday in Lent, also known as Refreshment Sunday as the strict fasting observances of Lent were relaxed. 

"Mothering" initially referred to the duty to return to the "Mother Church" on that day, and later the day was adopted as a holiday for young people in service to have the day off to go home and take a present to their mothers.   Often the present was a Simnel Cake, a rich fruit cake with almond paste. I remember baking such a cake for my own mother when I was a student, and surprising her on Mothering Sunday when I turned up at her door.

How to Feel Confident: Part 3: Practice, Practice, Practice

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1. Do something you're good at. And yes, you're good at something. Even if it's cleaning toilets, you're good at it. And you know it! When we do things we're good at, we feel a sense of pride and accomplishment. Confidence stems from there. And not only do it, but do it often. It'll remind you how awesome you are.
   • Being good at something, mastering a skill, gives us personality, gives us something to talk about, and makes us interesting in addition to giving us a sense of fulfillment. And did we mention doing things we're good at is fun? So what are you waiting for? Take a little me time and go do your thing.
2. Talk to everyone. Part of lacking confidence comes from not really understanding people. To get around this, talk to everyone. Even if it's just a remark about the bus, talk to everyone. Here's what you'll probably learn: 

How to Feel Confident: Part 2 Working from the Outside In

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1. Dress sharp. How would you feel if you walked into Chez Moi in your penguin pajamas with a serious case of bedhead? Probably pretty self-conscious and awkward. Now how would you feel if you walked into the same place dressed in your Sunday best? Though the clothes don't make the (wo)man, they can make him/her feel like a million bucks.
   • It's a lot easier to feel good about ourselves when we think we look good. So take a shower, do your hair, wear clean clothes, and spray something on that makes all the boys come to the yard. Don't feel the need to bust out the prom attire, but do put a little effort in to feel put together.
   
   
2. Be aware of your posture. Find a room or an area full of people. 9 times out of 10 you're going to call the unconfident people based on how they're a little slouched over or how they're looking down. In fact, just mimicking them can put you in a more unconfident mood. So don't do it! Keep your chin up, your shoulders back, and walk like you own the joint. You're on public sidewalk most of the time anyway.
3. Work out. When we work out, we look better. When we look better, we feel better. But then there's also that working out releases endorphins, makes us feel productive, gives us energy, and basically just puts a pep in our step. And, oh yeah, it makes us healthy and live longer and stuff.
   • You don't have to be a marathon runner to reap the benefits of exercise. 30 minutes a day (even broken up into smaller chunks) is all you need to hop on the health train.
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4. Wear color. There's a reason we wear black when we mourn: it reflects our mood. Humans have a huge association with color. If you're feeling a little down, throw on something bright. The little spike in pizzazz could be all your confidence needs.
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How to Feel Confident

“Most people walk through the world in a trance of disempowerment"    Dr. Milton H. Erickson
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                 You might have already read and learned how to be confident, but what if you still don't feel all that confident? Sometimes it takes your emotions a little bit of time to catch up with your behaviors, but you can help to move the process along. Perhaps all you really need is some working out and dressing up to feel better, or maybe you can start with thinking positively and smiling more often. In any case, feeling confident is definitely a continuous process that, when achieved, will improve your quality of life immensely.     

         

Part 1 of 3: Tricking Your Brain

1  Think positively. When it comes down to it, reality is perception. If you feel confident, you are. If life is falling apart around you but you don't notice, it's not really falling apart, now is it? So get on thinking those happier thoughts! You're not deluding yourself one way or another -- don't worry that you're being silly for thinking positively -- you're just taking control.

Break those habits that tie you down

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By Leo Babauta

You might have uttered these defeated words before, “I tried to quit but it’s too hard!” I did many times when I tried to quit smoking. And when I tried giving up meat, cheese, sugar, and more.

Quitting something can seem – and is – often incredibly hard, so much so that we don’t even want to put ourselves through the suffering.

Have you tried giving up alcohol? Marijuana? Biting your nails? Complaining? Cigarettes? Junk food?

I can confirm that it’s hard to quit an addiction, because there are several things that stand in our way:

1. The physical addiction — This is difficult, but it often lasts only a few days. Fortunately, I can tell you that if you really put your mind to it, you can do anything for a few days at a time.
2. The reliance on it as a coping mechanism — We’re so used to using the addiction as a crutch when we’re stressed or sad or things are difficult or we need to socialize. Fortunately, there are plenty of other healthier ways to cope with stress.
3. You don’t believe you can do it. This is the worst one, because if you give in to this obstacle, the other two are not conquerable. Fortunately, this one is entirely under your control.

Because it’s so important, we’re going to focus on the last obstacle first.

The Four Words That Guarantee Success - and Why You Don't Act on Them!

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The motivational speaker was in full flow.

His success was legendary.  His mansions, his waterside homes. his luxury cars and his private jet were by-words not just in the business world but in the popular press and social media.  Barely a week went by without his smiling, bearded face filling the newspapers and the TV screens, and never a day passed without the profits of his companies being quoted in the financial news.  If anybody knew about success in business it must be him.  The convention hall was packed with business people from around the world who were hanging on his every word.

They had traveled from round the world, flown many thousands of miles and spent many tens of thousands of dollars to attend the convention.  This guru's slot was the most publicized and the best attended of the three days for he had promised to give them the Secret of Success in any business.

Five Important Qualities of Effective Leadership

Parent, teacher, supervisor, manager, business owner - we are all called upon to lead others if we are to make a difference in the world.  Every time we influence another person, a spouse, friend or colleague, we need leadership qualities to share our vision, our idea of how things can or should be, and persuade others to work towards that goal  Today's article looks at five essential qualities for a leader.  Leading or teaching others is one of the best ways to develop and cement our own knowledge. Clich HERE to find out how to develop your leadership skills

By Leon Lioe 

 

Effective leadership is key to the success of an organization. Without leaders, an organization is like a ship lost at sea. Leaders are those that chart a course for their organization or set new course if necessary. There are many qualities or characteristics of an effective leadership, this article will discuss five of them.

1. Influence and Inspire
Many people think that leadership is about power; driving people to do what you want to accomplish using fear. Well, this is a wrong leadership. A leader is not a boss. An effective leader must be able to influence and inspire people to accomplish a goal, or an objective of an organization. A leader inspires; a bossy person give orders!

Why Most Small Businesses Don't Work, And What To Do About It

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Technician, Entrepreneur, Manager

The reason most small businesses don't work is that they are run by a "Technician", someone who knows how to do the technical work involved in a job, without much thought to two other, equally important roles described in the book, the "Entrepreneur" and the "Manager".  These are not separate people, but distinct elements of our personalities.  In other words, while we might be biased towards one, we all have all of them, and to successfully run a small business, they must all play a role.

• The Technician is someone - a bicycle mechanic, computer programmer, cook, etc... - who is an expert in his or her craft.  This often leads these people to go into business for themselves - they're good at what they do, and they know it, so why not reap the rewards of their labor?  The technician is happiest doing the work they are good at and ignoring the rest, which is, in the end, a recipe for failure.
• The Entrepreneur is the dreamer, the one who sets out to do something new, who reaches for the stars.

Free eBook: Overcome Shyness and enjoy talking to people

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We humans are above everything else Social Animals, and the richness and rewards of our lives depend on being able to communicate with other people. We are also programmed from birth to be wary of new people and new situations until we know they are "safe" and not threatening to us. This means that if we have not learned how to "check out" if other people are "safe" we may feel fear and anxiety which means that we become frightened of other people and of our own feelings and thoughts.  We may steer clear of other people with the result that

• Our basic sociable nature is starved
• we experience a great deal of loneliness
• we are less successful in our work or profession, and remain poorer as a result as it is "not just what you know, but who you know!"
• Our health will suffer and we may die earlier
• We miss out on all the satisfactions in engaging positively with others
• it will be harder to find a partner or soul mate
• we are likely to feel very bored much of the time!

Do not despair, help is at hand!

Renowned Psychologist and Hypnotherapist Mark Tyrrell has put together a sneak peak of the  powerful 10 step Hypnosis Downloads Course on Overcoming Shyness and Social Anxiety. 

The Potent and Priceless Power of Self-Discipline

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By Liz A Wendling 

Self-discipline is a powerful, potent and priceless trait of successful people. It's a quality people admire and secretly wish they possessed. Your ability to develop self-discipline will contribute more to your success than any other quality, trait or habit. Your good looks, great personality and passion will carry you only so far. But self-discipline will take you across the finish line.
Self-discipline is the ability to take action in a situation, regardless of your emotional state. When you are self-disciplined, you decide what actions to take today to get the results you desire. You do what you need to do, whether you want to do it or not. Self-discipline helps you keep the promises and commitments you make to yourself and clients. You do what you commit to and see it through to the end. No excuses!

How to Deal With Bullies

Bullies come in all shapes and sizes, and most of us have to deal with them at one point or another. However, bullying is a serious problem, not only in schools- but also both in the workplace, home, the military, playground and even nursing homes. Luckily enough, this method also works for adults! Some cases have even been so serious that they have led to the victims committing suicide due to bullying.

Bullying is all to Common - Learn How to Deal with it HERESteps

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First you recognise the type of bully you are dealing with . Whether he abuses physically or harasses mentally . His temper moods and actions - reactions in different situations .

• Aggressive bullies are likely to abuse physically and without hesitation. Try to feel the inner strength you carry. Sometimes we think they can take everything we have as a person away from us. Believe that you are stronger than they are, because deep down you are stronger than they are and ever will be.
  
• Taunting bullies are verbally abusive (calling names, making jokes, teasing, etc.).

Stress Management - Foods to Help Lower Stress Hormone Levels

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By Nonito Guntan 

Stress is inevitable in life and as such, one's goal should not be stress-free living but how to successfully manage stress. By itself, stress won't make an individual ill, but the way of coping with it will. The practical objective, therefore, should be how to execute an effective stress management strategies in order to minimize and alleviate the negative effects of stress in our daily lives. Different means are on hand to effectively mitigate the toll that stress exerts on one's overall health, and one effective means is by eating healthy, going for a diet that feature foods that help in lowering stress hormone levels such as cortisol.

Five Important Tips for Your Next Job Interview

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By John Focht 

Interviewing for a new job is somewhat of an awkward and frightening experience. In many ways, it's similar to our college dating days again. After all, first impressions count. Hygiene is vital. Being friendly, approachable, and likeable are critical. Before going back on that dating scene... er, uh, job interview, here are five tips to freshen up on in case it's been awhile.

Personal Appearance:
Deals are made or lost on first impressions. Be sure your personal appearance isn't what costs you an opportunity at landing your dream job. In today's culture, many offices and professional work environments are very relaxed. Professional casual, or even Friday casual is the office attire.
No matter what the professional setting is, you don't have the job yet. You need to go the interview dressed to land a job, not dressed as though you are heading to happy hour.
For men, that means breaking out the button down shirt, tie, and suit. It also means shave that day. No matter what the facial hair style of the day is, you need to go into the interview looking your best, and that includes a smooth face.

7 Public Speaking Survival Tips

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I used to be terrified of public speaking - now it's natural and fun.
Dry mouth, fast heart, sweaty palms, blank mind - yeah I've been there! It's easy to fear public speaking. But I was never just content with overcoming fear. I wanted to be a great speaker. What I needed was a way of calming down and applying simple techniques and strategies to talk like a pro.
When I'd learned to relax (more of that later) I learned and applied the following four steps.

1. Reassure your audience - they need to know you know your stuff and you are human!
2. Hook them by being interesting and relevant. Tell them why what you are saying is relevant to them.
3. Inspire them by giving them information and ways of seeing that are new and applicable.
4. Leave them on a high by telling a story them encapsulates your central message.

How do you become confident enough to apply the four steps?
Here's some tips some of which are practical some of which are to do with the way you think about your public presentations and also how you can start to change the way you feel about them.

Improve your self confidence in 15 minutes

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I used to be frighteningly under confident in social situations. And although people who know me now would never believe I used to doubt myself so much I literally had to learn confidence until it became a natural part of me. I can tell you relaxed optimistic confidence is just, well so much more fun.

Here I'll tell you about the things that made the most difference to my confidence levels...

The Power of Communication and Connection

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By Edafe Hitler 

 

As we travel through life and our connection with people, each of us encounters people who disappoint and deceive us. In response to these negative experiences we often create a protective mental wall to keep people out and prevent us from experiencing this pain again.
And in some ways, withdrawing from those around us and putting up our mental defenses DOES work. It keeps corrupt people out, and protects us from their malicious intentions.
However the problem with living life this way, is that in addition to keeping us isolated from the relatively few malicious people in the world, we also isolate ourselves from all the truly good people around us.

When we become isolated from the world at large, we miss out on so much joy, happiness and laughter that the right people can bring into our lives.
The big problem is many of us live with our protective mental walls UP by default, and we only occasionally lower our defenses and let people in.
One of the most powerful ways to transform your relationships is to turn this strategy around, and learn to live with your protective mental walls DOWN by default, and only occasionally raise them to block out the negative people you may encounter.
Here are three ways to practice bringing down your protective mental walls and connecting with those around you.

7 Ways to Soothe your Shyness

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Shy people instinctively know that they are missing out. Shyness equals lost opportunities, less pleasure and fewer social connections. Shyness can be crippling but there are tried and tested ways to make it a thing of the past.

When I was fifteen I was shy. I recall an attractive girl attempting to engage me in conversation. My shyness made me focus on me instead of her. I heard my own voice but not hers and I thought about what I was trying to say instead of what she was trying to say.

The formula for shyness is "too much focus on the self" plus anxiety. To make it even more unpleasant, sometimes when you are feeling shy you experience physical sensations which 'hijack' your calm logical self.

My pulse raced, my mouth dried up and I felt like the village idiot! I couldn't think what to say so I said nothing apart from making barely audible grunting noises! Cary Grant eat your heart out! When I detected pity in her eyes (or was it contempt, or boredom) I mumbled my excuse and got out of there. I hated being shy and was determined to change it.

How shyness is developed and maintained
Shyness really is a combination of social anxiety and social conditioning. To overcome shyness you need to learn to relax socially. This enables you to direct your attention away from yourself and gives you the space to practice certain conversational skills. In most cases, the heightened emotions of socializing when young simply condition the sufferer to respond to social events with fear, instead of excitement and pleasure.

Mind Maps to Clear a Cluttered Mind

By Don Lester 

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Do you have so many things on your mind that you cannot focus? Are you trying find a way to get focused so you can complete important tasks? The best way to clear the clutter is by using something called a mind map or brain map. A brain map allows you to jot down the things on your mind with some kind of order. You can begin with an idea and then freely associate any ideas that come up. It is the quickest and easiest way to pour all the ideas you have out of you mind.

5 Hypnosis Myths Exploded

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OVER the years, hypnosis has picked up all sorts of weird associations from stage hypnotists, the media and superstition. This is a great shame, because in reality, hypnosis is your single most effective tool for change. Hypnosis is your birthright, and you should know how to use it so it doesn't use you. Here we dispel the biggest hypnosis myths.

Hypnosis Myth 1) All hypnosis is the same
As with anything, hypnosis can be good, bad or indifferent. The most common is old-style authoritarian hypnosis of the type "You are getting sleepy, you are feeling confident". Unsurprisingly, this sort of hypnosis doesn't work well with many people. Good hypnosis uses subtle psychological principles and advanced communication patterns.
It's like the difference between a football coach who thinks you'll perform best if he yells at you, compared with the more elegant style of a great leader who knows that to get the best from his people, he needs to understand motivation, to cajole, encourage and reward.
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Hypnosis - does it really work?

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At last, it's official. Hypnotism really does work - and it has an impact on the brain which can be measured scientifically, according to one of America's leading psychiatrists.
David Spiegel, from Stanford University, told the prestigious American Association for the Advancement of Science that he had scanned the brains of volunteers who were told they were looking at coloured objects when, in fact, they were black and white.
A scan showing areas of the brain used to register colour highlighted increased blood flow, indicating that the volunteers genuinely 'saw' colours, as they had been told they would.
'This is scientific evidence that something happens in the brain when people are hypnotised that doesn't happen ordinarily,' Mr Spiegel told delegates.

How to increase your confidence - Expert tips to jump-start your self-esteem

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For many, being confident can be a struggle. According to life coach and author Jim Fannin, the amount of people who are suffering from low self-esteem is rising at an alarming rate.
"In all my 60-plus years, I've never seen more stress, worry, despair, anguish — it's just magnified," said Fannin, author of the book, "The Pebble in the Shoe, 5 Steps to a Simple and Confident Life."

Fannin said confidence dissolves when we worry too much about the future, dwell on the past, or judge ourselves and others.
"After listening to one of my clients and being around him, I told him if, 'I talked to you the way you talk to you, you'd fire me already!'" he said. "People today are judging themselves, judging other people, comparing themselves to neighbors, friends, co-workers, team members. It won't lead to a confident life."
Here are Fannin's tips to increase confidence: