10 Ways to Instantly Build Self Confidence

Self confidence is the difference between feeling unstoppable and feeling scared out of your wits. Your perception of yourself has an enormous impact on how others perceive you. Perception is reality — the more self confidence you have, the more likely it is you’ll succeed.
Although many of the factors affecting self confidence are beyond your control, there are a number of things you can consciously do to build self confidence. By using these 10 strategies you can get the mental edge you need to reach your potential.

Build Self Confidence

This Classic Book Can Change Your Life!

How to Win Friends And Influence People, by Dale Carnegie.
You will have noticed that we do not always recommend the trendiest, latest publications but go for the tried and tested: the books and strategies that have stood the test of time and helped hundreds of thousands of people to achieve One Hundred Per Cent Confidence. 

If you have read the book, you will understand why we are recommending it, and if you have not yet read "How to Win Friends And Influence People" then lose no time in getting your hands on a copy.  Listen to what other readers have said;
"This Book Can Change Hour Life! Have you ever met someone that immediately made you feel at ease? Have you ever met someone who seems so pleasant and makes you genuinely feel good about yourself? Or someone that makes you feel inspired? Or someone who gives you confidence?

365 Affirmations for a Year of Positive Thinking By Katie Piper

We have mentioned Affirmations before, and here is a treasure-house with a fresh affirmation for every day of the year!

Reviewers write "This book is a brilliant edition to any bookshelf! Who wouldn't want a book full of positive thoughts...everyone should own a copy of this book", and "A lovely book full of inspirational thoughts and quotes to brighten your day. A good bit of positive thinking that we all need sometimes! Another wonderful book by Katie :)"

If you find it hard to put your affirmations into words, or to say them with conviction this book could make all the difference to your reaching One Hundred per Cent Confidence!

See and buy it at Amazon.co.uk 

Achieving All Your Goals One Simple Step at a Time!

Book Review: "The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy"

The underlying premise of Darren Hardy's The Compound Effect is that the routine choices we make, when compounded over long periods, form habits which exert outsized control over our lives. In other words, seemingly little decisions such as to eat a cookie or watch TV "add up" over time the same what that savings account interest when compounded over years can add up to a significant sum. Hardy believes that for us to achieve our individual goals we need develop new positive habits to replace the existing ones that are keeping us back. For example, reading a little more each day at the expense of watching television -- even 15 minutes a day of this when applied to a year would add up to several books. Seasoned dieters know this trick and Hardy uses the example of cutting out just 125 calories a day when applied to 31 months would equate to over 33 pounds lost in the typical person.
The most important steps are to first write down the goals you want to achieve, then list the reasons (or habits) that are keeping you from accomplishing them, as well as to accept total responsibility for your situation. Once accomplished you can begin........

Building Self-Confidence - Preparing Yourself for Success!

From the quietly confident doctor whose advice we rely on, to the charismatic confidence of an inspiring speaker, self-confident people have qualities that everyone admires.
Self-confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of our lives, yet so many people struggle to find it. Sadly, this can be a vicious circle: People who lack self-confidence can find it difficult to become successful.
After all, most people are reluctant to back a project that's being pitched by someone who was nervous, fumbling and overly apologetic.
On the other hand, you might be persuaded by someone who speaks clearly, who holds his or her head high, who answers questions assuredly, and who readily admits when he or she does not know something.
Self-confident people inspire confidence in others: their audience, their peers, their bosses, their customers, and their friends. And gaining the confidence of others is one of the key ways in which a self-confident person finds success.
The good news is that self-confidence really can be learned and built on. And, whether you’re working on your own self-confidence or building the confidence of people around you, it’s well-worth the effort!

Feeling Down? 7 Ways to Pick Yourself Back Up!

From time to time, we all get a little down, maybe even a little depressed. Maybe we are feeling overwhelmed, or feel bad because we’re not doing well with our goals. There are many reasons for feeling down, and I’m not qualified to discuss all of them, their implications, or clinical treatment. What I can talk about are some things that have worked for me.
Feeling a little depressed can interfere with achieving our goals. We know we should be doing something, but we just don’t feel like doing anything. This can last for a long time if you don’t head it off as soon as possible and take action. Here are some of the things that work best for me:

Building Self-Confidence For Dummies

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We could all use a little more confidence in our lives. With a push in the right direction, you can discover how to carry yourself confidently at work, at home, and even in relationships. This friendly guide by Kate Burton and Brinley Platts shows you what confidence is and where it comes from, and offers practical tips and techniques to build on your skills, challenge your fears, and channel your energy into a more effective you.

• Discover how to Recognise your strengths 
• See things from a brighter perspective 
• Say ′No′ with confidence
•  Build confidence in others 
• Raise confident children

I can't remember how many copies of this book I have bought to give to people who are struggling to regain lost confidence or people lost within themselves unable to find their natural confidence. Well written, it's a great 'pick up/put down' book which seems to always fall open at the relevant page every time I open it! It's full of good advice and serves as a reminder of things long forgotten when you find yourself in a confidence dilemma. There are things to do and work on, tips and a wonderful collection of case studies which are helpful and useful for identifying with the situations described. I believe this book is a 'must' for anyone looking to regain or boost confidence and consequently get more out of life. This book accompanies me through life and has become a good friend.

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Linda Ogley

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7 Simple Steps to Conquering Self-Doubt

Even the most self-confident among us will experience doubt from time to time. Because we can’t completely avoid it, we need a strategy that allows us to contend with, and conquer self-doubt. So, what is the difference between those who overcome this insidious foe, and those who are controlled by it?
Before we get into that, let’s talk a little about what doubt is, and why it likes to creep into our lives like a party pooper, and throw a wet blanket on our motivation.
Self-doubt is that feeling of uncertainty about your ability to accomplish something. This dark shadow of insecurity can lead to hesitation and indecision. If left unchecked, it can cause us to abandon our course or radically compromise our expectations.

The Breakfast of Champions!

One of my grumpy "friends" just dissed my Blog!

"Pah, nobody is 100% confident all the time.  It's freakin' impossible! Get real!"

But as I thought about it I realised that he was sort of right, because very confident people are quite comfortable in admitting that they don't know stuff.  They don't mind trying new stuff, getting it wrong the first time or three, but getting better each time until they master the new skill, or language, or knowledge.

BUT (and this is the point) they are confident that they can and will master it, and they do not mind getting it wrong a few times on the way.

You know the saying that the most successful sales people get most refusals?  That's because they don't let refusals sap their confidence. They just make more sales calls and get better and better at finding the best prospects and closing more sales.

The most successful business people are those that have made the most "mistakes".  When things do not turn out how they wanted or expected they do not bemoan their "failures".  They LEARN from them and make better decisions the next time.

One Hundred Per Cent Confident People do not know everything or always get things right.  What makes them successful is that they are comfortable not knowing and willing to learn.  They also know that there is no such thing as failure, only feedback!

AFFIRMATIONS - How to Use Affirmations to Manifest Your Desires

Affirmations are simple, positive thoughts, beliefs, words and phrases that affirm our life’s true desires.

Affirmations are positively expressing in words, thoughts and beliefs what we honestly want and who we wish to be in our lives.  Repeating affirmations over and over allows the subconscious mind to accept what we affirm as fact.  Our behaviour will follow accordingly.

Through affirmations we are able to think ourselves more positive, improve personal self-love, become healthier, stronger, more patient, kinder, more compassionate, more wealthier … the list is endless.

The words we use, our attitudes, our thoughts and beliefs send out an energy and vibration to the Universe.  Positive words and declarations send out positive energies.  Declaring positive affirmations help to break negative habits, thought-forms and mind-sets.

There is an often over-looked, but logical reason why affirmations work.  Affirmations are a direct communication with the ‘soul mind’.  The ‘soul mind’ has eternal wisdom and knowledge, and always resonates with our soul’s truths.

Fake It 'Til You Make It!

What do the world's most successful individuals possess that allows them to be so influential? What is it that gives a rock star, a politician, or an athlete the courage to perform in front of thousands, even millions of people, or a business leader the ability to keep churning out product after product that is game-changing but also high risk for his company? For these people to do what they do, they need a strong belief in themselves that allows them to persist in the face of failure and to keep trying, no matter their level of fear. They have an internal drive that tells them that they can succeed, that they have the ability to handle whatever comes their way. Is this characteristic unique to them? Or is it something we all can possess?

I wrote my first blog post on the importance of having a strong social support network, and I shared some research on the subject that made it clear that friends and family are key contributors to health and success. With this post I'm going to cover another tool that also leads to health and success, one that is not external but rather inside of each of us: confidence. Confidence is "a feeling of self-assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities," and it plays an important role in building healthy relationships, achieving success in your professional life, and staying motivated. Fortunately, it can be developed easily with practice and perspective.

“Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway” By Susan Jeffers. A review and why everyone should read this book

You would think that a book titled “Feel the Fear and do it anyway” would only be about dealing with your fears, but it is not.  It is about opening yourself. living a fuller more fulfilling life and finding happiness, peace and balance.   Many of these self help style books are not cross culture friendly, meaning that they might not apply to you if you don’t live in the USA or Europe but not this book, it is written for a very wide audience.  You can read this book and benefit from it no matter how old you are or what your gender is.
We all have our fears and things that hold us back.  This book is not about fixing these fears or trying to find out why we have them, it is about overcoming them, accepting that we will always be afraid of things and how to use that fear as a stepping stone to get to where we want to go.

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Some of my favorite concepts from the book:
Taking responsibility of our lives without blaming anyone else or beating ourselves up. I used to go back and forth to these two extremes and always felt stressed and unhappy. Now I can easily tell myself that other people’s happiness is not my responsibility without feeling guilty. My happiness is my responsibility and no one else’s. It is not fair or healthy to blame other people for what goes on in our lives if we have decided to give up control of our lives.

The Three Components of Shyness

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Can you remember the last time you stepped into a room full of strangers and felt that self-conscious and awkward feeling rush over you? Or that heart thumping moment when you wanted to ask someone on a date, but were too shy to do so? Or wanting to approach someone for business, but was too hesitant to actually do it? That anxiety in the pit of your stomach in social situations? Does it always feel like something is holding you back?

Regardless of whether you are introverted or extraverted, we can all relate to that feeling of shyness at some point in our lives. Socially, we tend to have the misconception that only introverts experience shyness, but that is not true. Shyness has more to do with being uncomfortable with one’s self, especially around other people.
This article is the result of collaboration between Amanda Linehan, an introvert, and Tini S an extravert. Together, we wanted to shed some light on the topic of shyness in a collective perspective from both extremes. We will also share the ways that we used to turn shyness into personal empowerment.

How to be Socially Confident: Power & Self Esteem

Confidence and self esteem are problems we all get to face at one point or another. Does this mean we have to live with it for the rest of our lives? Absolutely not. Learn how to be a much better person when being by yourself, and within a social situation.

Remember that no one is any better than you are. If someone can perform well in a social environment, why can't you? Really, what's the worst thing that could happen? Why do you feel better when talking in front of your family and friends, but not when dealing with new faces? We're all people with the same abilities. Stop wondering what others will think of you. Just get out there and do it.

Stop worrying ahead. When dealing with social situations, for example, people immediately start thinking about the public's reaction. Furthermore, have you noticed it's never a positive one? Do not get ahead of yourself. Do not start thinking "what if"; This will only turn any (negative) possible outcome into reality. Live in the present.

Do you need to develop more confidence and self esteem?  Check out the resources here.

 http://www.ehow.com/how_2080212_socially-confident-power-self-esteem.html